My wife and I are currently faced with a difficult challenge that must be handled delicately, but must be handled. You see, we have some very good friends that are going through some hard times, while we understand–we don’t want to add to their burdens–it seems that every time we get together, one of their children hits one of ours. In fact, this last week, this same child hit our child in the head with a rock because their child didn’t want ours talking anymore. Instead of using words, the child used a stone. And as I said this little one has hit our little one before.
Added to this, is their older child making verbal threats of violence–whether joking, or not–against our older child (“Wanna go, boy? Who could leave you upside down crying in garbage can?”). This rhetoric is disturbing because it’s so oft-repeated.
This is very distressing to us. We know that our friends are having a tough go of it right now, but we’re concerned that perhaps their children aren’t learning the best conflict resolution skills. (Now I’m not saying that our kids are angels–far from it–but by-and-large they don’t go around hitting (even each other) to resolve disputes.
My wife, as a mama bear, is much more distressed than I am about all this, and has begun wondering, rather than getting this out in the open–which, to some degree, we’ve tried to do in the past–whether it would be best to change churches. I love our church, and would much rather not.
We’re in between a rock and a hard place on this, and are unsure of the best course of action moving forward.
This is where you come in. We need your advice. What would you do? What is the best course of action? What do you recommend?
(Note: I intentionally left out any identifying details above to protect, and respect, our friends’ privacy).