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Folks, this week’s Wednesday Haterade is running today, Friday. Why? You ask. Well, it’s because I was everywhere on the Internet on Wednesday. Seriously. I had Sharideth Smith guesting here, I guested on her blog, and a piece I wrote for Alise Wright’s “Guest Post-A Pallooza” ran then as well.

I. Was. Everywhere. On. The. Internet. 😉 Which was cool, and scary, and fun. Those ladies are good peoples! Read their blogs!

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Folks, I was up very late last night, started the day behind the eightball, and have been gunning since.

Rather than doing a post of my own, I thought I’d share some of the posts that have meant the most this past week:

1) Jennifer Luitwieler featured a great guest post from Pam Hogeweide on gender identity in the church.

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This week, I have by turns been challenged, chastened, inspired, awed, and not a little jealous (in no particular order) of the following:

Caleb Wilde is a funeral director in Pennsylvania, and blogs at Confessions of a Funeral Director. It’s an awesome blog by an introverted guy writing on the intersection of life, death, and eternity (sometimes quite snarkily). Check him out.

Shawn Smucker is one my new favorites; he blogs at His post on What My Eastern-Religion-Leaning Friend Taught Me About Being a Christian was particularly challenging to me.

Ben Emerson is currently engaged in one of the most audacious projects I’ve ever encountered: he’s blogging his way through the entire Bible with panache and wit. You can fine him at The Whole Dang Thing.

Andrea Cumbo blogs at, and her post on Writing Is Not Lonely, But Avoiding It Is truly touched my soul.

Here are three words that may not necessarily compute, but are nonetheless true: Funny. Baptist. Pastor. Who is this? Matt Cannon, who blogs at The Seeking Pastor. He never fails to deliver the funny, while serving up some inspiration (and sometimes some conviction, too). And sometimes he gets all poemy. And it all works!

Best new blog I’ve read is that of Shanda Sargent, who blogs at The Upside Down Pastor’s Wife. Her post on the field is one of my favorites.

You should check all of these out; indeed there are many others–too many for space and time to permit.

My last recommendation is Bryan Allain’s BlogRocket, where I encountered the first four bloggers mentioned here. If you are a blogger looking to grow your platform, the Blog Rocket community is the place to be.

One last thing: Adam McHugh is running a series of guest posts this week on introverted parenting. I believe he’s kicking it off tomorrow with my post regarding my struggles as an introverted father.

Thanks for reading! Happy Lord’s day!

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This past weekend, my wife and I celebrated our 20th wedding anniversary. It has been both a privilege and an honor to have Lisa in my life. And I know that for such a momentous occasion as this, she would have liked to have gone to a place like Hawaii, but that wasn’t feasible at this time. I was able to book us a couple of nights at a local resort, arrange childcare for our kids, but still wanted to make our anniversary a memorable occasion. And that is where Anne Jackson comes in. She seems to have made it her life’s calling to help people get free from all the junk that weighs us down—whatever that is. And she—along with Susan Isaacs and Solveig Leithaug—were going to be in town for the last stop of the fall leg of the Permission to Speak Freely tour. As I have been truly blessed, encouraged, challenged, and changed by reading Anne’s books (her description of her “sex education” resonates with me, because it strongly parallels my own), I got my wife and I tickets. Not exactly a romantic notion, I know, but very memorable. We got to meet strangers who felt like lifelong friends, folks who really cared about us, and invited us into their stories. It was an intimate evening, perhaps not in the traditional anniversary sense, but one that my wife and I will never forget for the rest of her life. Anne, if you happen to read this, Lisa knows now—she knows!–that she is not alone. Thank-you for giving us the gift of going second. It is a gift we hope to “pay forward.”
One of the highlights of the evening were getting to hear of Solveig’s experiences as a single parent—this really made me appreciate anew all my own mother did after my dad left. Honestly, for so long I’d only considered how my parents’ divorcing affected me, and hearing of Solveig’s struggles confronted me smack dab in the face with the fact that my mom had pain of her own with which to contend. This, I think, is yet another sad fact of divorce: the pain of it isolates—isolates the parties going through it certainly, and isolates the children who have no understanding of what’s going on, or why. My own pain isolated—insulated–me from the fact that my mom had to have been hurting, too, and she was doing all she could to hang onto our home, friends, whatever was left of the life we knew. And all I did was resent the fact that she was gone so much, because my dad—in leaving—basically took her away, too.
Another highlight of the evening was getting to both hear Susan Isaacs’s testimony about her dad, and talk with her about it following the event. To say that her experiences paralleled mine would be an understatement. And as hard as it has been, I did what Susan had to do with her late father: I finally drew a healthy boundary that, for now at least, has essentially severed the relationship with my dad. Unfortunately, it was so unhealthy for so long, I know he doesn’t see it that way. I’ve written of it before, but it bears repeating: in the name of what I thought was Christian love, for the sake of what I thought was “honoring” my dad, I let him hurt my wife for a long time. But no more. For my wife’s sake, for my son’s sake, I had to man up and protect my family. It wasn’t easy—didn’t feel “right” at first—but I’ve settled into this decision. And I think it is one of the best things I could have ever done for my marriage.
I have to say the most surreal moment of the evening—surreal, but very nice (yes, I stole that from Notting Hill)—was when Susan, with whom I had corresponded on Twitter, recognized me as “Gandalf” (my former Twitter handle), and spontaneously hugged me. I hadn’t expected her to recognize me at all, so this was very cool.


Random Thursday
Hi! Welcome to another random Thursday here on my blog! Glad you’re here! Really! Thanks for stopping by. Today’s post is going to be about link love—specifically, about sharing some of the bloggers I love. And a little side of snark, too. There are a heck of a lot of them out there, but these are the ones that speak to me. Some of the names you may recognize, some you may not, but they’re all rockstars to me. Since I’m so new to the blogging scene, I realize that me giving these folks a shout out is much like Shirley MacLaine standing on the seashore, squeaking at the heavens something about being “god,” but there you have it. So without further ado, and in no particular order:
  1. Bryan Allain of Bryan is a funny guy! When I’ve got to take a dump, it’s comforting to know that Bryan’s going to be there… Wait, what? No, that’s not what I meant. He’s not really there there if you know what I mean. It’s great to know that his stuff is there for me to read. My wife wonders what’s so darn funny about going to the bathroom, and I gotta say: it’s Bryan. His stuff is the pause that refreshes. I especially dig his ClichĂ© Thursdays, where he becomes a madcap mythbuster of clichĂ©s. He doesn’t just put them to the test—he obliterates them! You should follow him.
  2. Jon Acuff of Jon, too, is an extremely funny guy. His site started as a parody of Christian Landers’ Stuff White People Like, but has grown into so much more. Where Bryan deconstructs clichĂ©s, Jon deconstructs the Christian hipster subculture via satirical posts lampooning, well, stuff Christians like. Like the side hug, skinny jeans, metrosexual worship leaders, church organists, etc. Jon also is a great friend to have in the bathroom. Wait—that came out wrong. Never mind. He is easily one of the best satirists around, bar none. Totally check him out!
  3. Anne Jackson of I’ve mentioned her here on this site before, but it bears repeating: Anne is frank—blunt, even—about her struggles. On her website, via her Twitter posts (@flowerdust—soon to be going away, boo!), in her books, she’s all about helping people find healing and hope through honesty and confession. By being open herself, she gives us the gift of going second—of feeling safe to make our own confessions. If you get a chance, I highly encourage you to check out one of the remaining dates of her Permission to Speak Freely (her latest book) tour. You’ll be glad you did! (No bathroom jokes here!)
  4. Jeff Goins’ Pilgrimage of the Heart. Jeff is a prolific blogger whom I’ve recently become acquainted with on the “intarwebs.” His posts are thoughtful, insightful, pointed, and often wryly funny. He works for Adventures In Missions, and thus has a great heart for missions—what they are, aren’t, and why they’re critically important for the church and the world. Please check him out!
  5. Carlos Whittaker of The man understands grace better than almost anyone I know. See Christians And Their Molestation Problem for what I mean. Carlos is no one trick pony though—oh, no, as evidenced by that post, nothing is off limits—everything is fair game. He has a thriving community of followers. Totally join them!
  6. Donald Miller of Don is my homeboy. He’s the writer I want to be when I grow up (my wife is waiting for this, too!). And so much of his journey powerfully resonates with me. Being a child of divorce (whatever that means) myself, I feel like he really gets me. He so frequently speaks to me right where I live. Plus he can be wicked funny, too. Check Don out!
Folks, that’s about all I’ve got time for today. Gotta get back to the “real job”–the one that pays the bills, you know? Anyway, it was fun checking with you. If you wouldn’t mind, please let me be Sally Fields to your Academy Awards show, and tell me that you like me by clicking the little “Like” button over there near the upper right hand corner of the page. Thanks so much!
I’ll leave you with one of my own deconstructed clichĂ©s:
What does it mean to keep ones nose clean? How did this ever come to be associated with integrity, with living an upright life? It’s like, ok, I’m a man of integrity, I keep my nose clean—by picking! I imagine Mick saying to Rocky, “Rock, kid, yous gotta keep your nose clean in dis sport—snort dis acetone.” Or perhaps the Hollywood moguls of old saying to Jimmy Durante, “Jimmy, if you know what’s good for you, you’ll keep that nose clean—here’s some Brasso!”
Goodbye for now, and many blessings! Remember tomorrow is Freedom Friday!

PS I’m an idiot! I totally forget to give a shout out to Matthew Paul Turner–author, blogger, bon vivant–of Jesus Needs New PR. Dude is like Kryptonite to all the stupid things we do in the Name of the Lord! The phrase “rapier wit” is next to his picture in the dictionary. Honestly, though he doesn’t know me, he’s been great to me–retweeting things for me, commenting here. Thanks, mpt! Go check him out!