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A few years and many words ago, I had a tidy little community here. I would write something, and people would reply. Then that began tapering off.

And so did my output. Somewhere along the way, I lost my passion. Getting caught up in the engagement, I forgot what I’d even started for. I had goals both serious and superficial (the blog is, after all, called RandomlyChad). I wanted it to be a community for people who hadn’t gotten it all figured out, who had been stung a time or two by life, but still weren’t afraid to laugh.

Well, there isn’t much community here anymore, and I have no one to blame but myself. I forgot why I was here, and for whom I was writing. I’ve learned some lessons along the way:

1) It’s better to love, and be loved, than to be popular. Popular is a moment, but love lasts a lifetime (and beyond). There’s no need to keep up with the Kardashians (or anyone else for that matter). Just because Donald Miller, or Jeff Goins, or Michael Hyatt, or Jon Acuff, or Rachel Held Evans, or whomever is doing XYZ doesn’t mean what they’re doing is a formula for all of us. The good Lord above hasn’t called us to be clones, but rather individuals. As such, we each have our own passions and interests. Our art should reflect that. Besides, people are quite good at sussing out imitations. Why do we need a copy of XXX when the real thing is right over there. That’s either pastiche, or parody. Be your own thing, and don’t lower your gaze to settle on mere popularity.

2) Writing is hard work. Anyone who tells you otherwise is lying through their gleaming pearly-whites. It’s really a lot like working out: one’s muscles must be exercised to grow. Growth does not happen overnight, but over the many days, weeks, months, and eventually years invested in the gym. Barbells don’t curl themselves; likewise, pens don’t pick themselves up to march across the page apart from human intervention (if they do, that’s something out of a Stephen King story). Anything worth doing takes time, attention, dedication, and focus. Note well: this process will involve pain. There are no shortcuts. The path is through the pain–not around it.

3) Life, and the people in it, come before any blog, book, work of art, etc. As Stephen King said, “Life is not a support system for art; it’s the other way around.” There’s simply a point where life must be loved, and not just merely commented upon. It’s easy to sit in our ivory towers pontificating; much harder to live, and to love, well. If we put our art, our creativity, above living well we’ve missed it. We’ve missed the point entirely. All of those around us will suffer for it. Again, there are no shortcuts. If we know that we’re living half-heartedly–not putting in the time, not really making the effort–you can bet your bottom dollar that others can tell, too.

I can promise you this: that if we take the time, and love well, we will have more interesting stories to tell. It’s like this: “For where your treasure is there will your heart be also.” Invest in the right place, and although you may not reap the rewards of success, money, popularity, or acclaim, you will realize rewards that will continue to pay into eternity when your life (and your voice) is but a legacy.

As Jesus said, “What does it profit a man to gain the whole world, but lose his own soul?”

What indeed?

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Church culture fascinates me. For instance, who decided that in the order of service communion should follow the greeting? You know what I’m talking about. There’s that time, every Sunday, when pastor announces that we should “extend the right hand of fellowship” to those around us? He means shake hands and say “Hi” to make folks feel welcome.

Well and good. People should feel welcome in our churches. I don’t have an issue with greeting folks (except that I mostly want to sit down and keep to myself). My problem is that when Communion Sunday rolls around it always comes after the greeting and not before.

My problem is that I don’t know where all those hands have been, you know? Who’s been scratching their head, nose, etc.? Who’s gone to the restroom (and not washed)? Who’s been changing diapers? Who’s (maybe) picked their nose, sneezed, coughed, whatever? (I’m sure you’ve seen that one guy who, when he thought no one was looking, scratched his posterior).

The answers are:

Don’t know

Don’t know

Don’t know

Don’t wanna know

Don’t know

And Ew!

And yet it never fails that I’m supposed to take communion, by placing that flavorless wafer in my mouth using the very hand I’ve just used to greet my brothers and sisters. They should have hand sanitizer dispensers as on the backs of pews so we can all freshen our hands before partaking of the Lord’s Supper.

It’s just a thought. 

I mean the juice comes in a little cup, right? Why not put that little, flavorless, moisture-sucking pellet in a cup, too–instead of in a receptacle where we all have to fish it out by hand? That’s just a thought, too, you know.

Then again, what if, say, the church implements a two-cup system (two cups, one… never mind), with the wafer in the bottom, and the wine substitute in the upper cup. What happens, say, if that juice sloshes around, or if the volunteers were a little too enthusiastic jamming those communion cups together? I’d say that the situation is ripe for that one perfect storm you never want to have happen when partaking of the Lord’s Supper:

Spilling Jesus.

What is spilling Jesus? It’s when the little cups either get stuck in the tray, and you can’t get them out, or the cups themselves are wedged so tightly together, that you end up spilling the juice all over yourself, your wife, her new dress, and the pew.

Not that that’s ever happened to me, mind you. It’s just a good thing I’m not Catholic (speaking of, can you imagine taking communion from the same cup? Many people, one cup? Yuck!).

I’m not sure what (if any) the lesson in all this is. Maybe we just need to be careful about how and where we spill Jesus?


I have dreams. Some good and pleasant; filled with fluffy clouds scudding in an azure sky, warm breezes, brilliant sunshine, picnic baskets, and sticky fingers. 
Some… not so good. In those dreams, the fingers are sticky, too; not with cotton candy, or caramel apples, but with blood. There is death, divorce, decay, mayhem, mischief, and maybe a glimmer of hope. Hope that I might wake up.
But what if I don’t? These are my Mean Dreams. They have teeth, biting with the carrion beaks of buzzards, fetid, foul, and smelling of the grave.  The air is redolent with their heavy scent.

They will linger long in your memory, too, these Mean Dreams.
Mean Dreams, an anthology of stories, coming by the end of 2015. 

Folks, my ebook, Casita 106 at the Red Pines, is on sale for $.99 for just one more day. Following are the opening paragraphs:

“On the highway just outside of Sedona, home of Arizona’s red rock country, is a retirement community, Shady Acres. Bisected by a road, the other half of the community was split off, and instead of retirees the property was used to attract vacationers as a timeshare. They called it the “Red Pines.” It was a way for the owner to keep a good revenue stream coming in year round. Too bad it was this side which sat upon an old indian burial ground–bulldozed in the name of progress, and profits. 

With stuccoed walls, and large windows, every unit accommodates four comfortably. Well, mostly. A single wide all gussied up is still a single wide no matter how fancy it is outside.

It’s the allure of the environment that draws people there. It’s close enough to town, but far enough away from the tourists clogging the area. It’s like camping in style: all the units have plumbing, hot and cold water, microwave, refrigerator, stove… All the comforts of home in the beautiful pines.

Or so Jack and Veronica Hartman thought on their way up from the Valley of the Sun. As timeshare owners, they had a membership in RCI (the preeminent exchange company in the business), which gave them access to thousands of properties outside their club. Having already used their points on a trip to Park City during ski season, they went looking for an extra vacation to get out of Phoenix’s mind melting heat.

Having waited so late in the year to book this trip, they had to take what was available: the Red Pines Lodge.

They hoped for a vacation to remember.”

Get your copy on Amazon:

Casita 106 at the Red Pines


Greetings, you hoopy froods (Internet cookie if you get the reference)!

Just dropping you a quick line to let you know that my eBook, Casita 106 at the Red Pines is now on sale for just $.99. Don’t hide your kids, or your wife–tell them! (Well, maybe don’t tell your kids–it’s not exactly a bedtime story). Don’t wait, because the sale only lasts one week.

If you were on the fence, wondering if it is, you know, a good story, here’s what the reviewers on Amazon have to say (don’t take my word for it):

4 stars “Seriously spooky!Joseph Sewell

4 stars “This book will leave me with nightmares for weeks.Jamie Kocur

4 stars  “Much as I don’t like horror stories (the nightmare factor for me), I ‘enjoyed’ this.Michelle White

4 stars “Well written scary fun!” —Jim Woods

5 stars “Well-Written and Suspenseful.” —Ricky Anderson

4 stars “WHOA — Didn’t see that ending coming.” —Chris Morris

If you do the math on those reviews, it means the story rates an average of 4.2 out of a possible 5 stars! I’d say that’s pretty good.

What are you waiting for? Get your copy of Casita 106 at the Red Pines today. You’ll be glad you did.

My humblest thanks for your support,