Have you been there? You know–that place.
The one where you’re maligned and misunderstood by those closest to you.
There are ways, and there are ways, to deal with this.
One way is to shut down, hide within. Which means putting on a false face–a facade. But it hurts to hide who you are from those closest to you.
And the self will find a away out.
So what do you do when it doesn’t feel safe anymore to be you?
Like I said, you can hide. But this has a way of festering. Resentment is bound to grow whether you’re conscious of it, or not.
How do I know? I’ve been there. Dealt with that rejection.
I’ve been in a men’s group, and made the mistake of sharing my (personal) convictions about the age of the earth. The group imploded. Made me not want to have friends anymore. Made me want to skip the risk.
I’ve done it with family members, too. When my motives were called into question, when I’ve changed my mind about something… and was rejected. When something in social media spheres happened that was both unlocked, and unasked, for.
Somehow it was my fault.
When a friend of a friend questioned my salvation, and family members didn’t step in to defend me, but rather gave credence to it.
So I learned to hide.
And in hiding, I became vulnerable. When it was no longer safe to be me around those closest to me, I found an outlet via email. At first, it was just this fun thing where I could let my hair down, be me.
That was refreshing.
What I didn’t realize at the time was how much of myself I was investing–how much time, thought, life was going to this unreality.
Because it came to the place where I was constantly refreshing my email, looking for a message, a word, a something to…
Make me feel like me. Because I didn’t know who I was anymore.
I ask you: have you been in that place?
Take it from me: it’s far better to face your fears, risk rejection, and have the difficult conversations. (Consider this: Jesus himself spent his whole earthly life being rejected by his own. Yet in it all he did not sin).
If you’re hiding from those closest to you: take your mask off. Lay down your rapier wit.
It’s time to be vulnerable. For it’s in being thus open that, yes, we risk rejections, but at the same time paradoxically find grace.
Are you wearing any false faces today?