Trading Neuroses

randomlychad  —  June 1, 2012 — 8 Comments

(Skip to the end if you’re interested in guest posting for me).

Recently, I had an opportunity to submit I guest post for review by a person I respect. The work represented an effort on my part to stretch myself beyond my typical subject matter.

Thing is, when I didn’t get as timely a response as I expected, I freaked a bit, became a pest. There are some reasons behind it, but none are here offered as excuses.

But first, a little history:

If you’ve been around here awhile, you know that I skew towards the introverted side of the temperament scale. Time was, I was even more (often painfully so) introverted (meaning shy, socially awkward) than the man I am now.

What do I mean?

If you can believe it, I was so conflict-avoidant that I would disappear when my wife needed to return goods at the store. I suppose there were reasons for that, for being so rejection-averse, but that’s not the point of this post. In any case, I share the preceding to my shame.

Back to the present:

I suppose in a sense I’ve graduated–from being rejection-averse to being indifference-averse:

Translation: I’ve discovered that I really don’t like feeling ignored. Because rejection, by-and-large, I can handle now. It sorta comes with the writing gig.

And since I’ve started writing in earnest, I’ve found that:

1) I do have a “voice;” and,
2) I use it (not always so well, apparently)

But the (seeming) indifference–when I’ve worked hard on something, stretched myself–drives me up a frickin’ wall!

Awesome! I’ve shed one neurosis for another! “O, wretched man am I…”

To be fair: it’s not the other party’s fault at all–they are extremely busy with a whole host of projects. The fault for my behavior rests squarely on my shoulders. Really.

I hope (I’m not even sure he/she/they read my blog) they can forgive me for being such a pest, and that we can work together at some point in the future.

Have you ever done this? Gone all grapenuts when the expected reply/feedback/whayever didn’t come soon enough? Or is it just me? <--please don't answer that one, ok? 😉 PS My family and are going on vacation next week, and I decided that rather than try to crank some content out while we're thus engaged, I thought I'd open (such as it is) my platform to you, my readers. Anyone interested in submitting a guest post is encouraged to click here. Sorry for the short notice, and thank-you!

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  • I think we can definitely be “pests”, but the world tells us to be squeaky wheels. There is a fine line, I guess.

    • I’ll trying to figure that one out, Larry--where the line lays, and finding the balance between being a pest, a d being engaged.

  • Chad, I think all of us are in the same boat! I feel the EXACT same way when ever I submit a piece to any new outlet I’ve not been published or associated with before. Thanks for the transparency!

    • Tor, I’m glad I’m not alone in this! Maybe all of us writer-types are just a little neurotic? 🙂

      Have a great weekend!

  • Chad, hit me up. I’d be glad to guest post for you. Maybe Wednesday?

    • Awesome, dude! How about a little rebuttal of Michelle’s piece? I’ll forward it to you.

  • Uh oh! Does this mean I’m in trouble? 🙂

    I’m trying. Really I am. Still trying to figure out how to expand what we “discussed” on Father’s Day without taking megabytes. Balance is a killer sometimes. (Of course, dealing with your spouse’s cancer treatments & the side effects thereof is no picnic, either.)

    • Nah, no trouble. 🙂 Balance is key, and often so hard to achieve. Life is a struggle for a variety of reasons. And one of those reasons is that there are forces arrayed against us. Have you read Wild At Heart? Watershed book for me.

      So sorry to hear about your wife. Will be praying.