An Isle Of Kevin Haggerty Guest Post: A Confession About Tim Hawkins, & Life

randomlychad  —  April 25, 2012 — 39 Comments

I have a confession to make. Are you ready? Alright. Here goes nothing.

I don’t think Tim Hawkins is funny.

I know, I know. What’s wrong with me? Everyone around me seems to think he’s hilarious. In particular, my buddy Chad Jones is a big fan. It’s caused more than our fair share of (friendly) disputes.

I feel like his stuff is a little corny, and cliché.

But here’s the thing: Just because I don’t get Hawkins’ brand of humor, doesn’t mean I need to hate on other people who love it.

A couple of years ago, this is a point on which I’d not have been willing to be flexible. I’ve always been a bit of an entertainment snob. If I think a movie, TV show, band or, in this case, comedian, is not high quality, I want the world to know.

To an extent, this is a trait that I’ve almost been proud of. I held to my character. Stuck to my guns.

Honorable, no?

The problem with that kind of cavalier attitude is that I was (and have been) alienating people I really love. They didn’t want to be around me. In retrospect, I don’t blame them.

It all really culminated a few days ago. My wife and I were pulling into the church parking lot when I made a comment (in the car) about a woman whom I saw was getting out of her car. I’d seen her be ugly to one of the parking lot attendants the previous Sunday. At the time we were pulling in, I witnessed her acting in a fashion that I believed to be “uppity,” which matched what I witnessed of her the weekend before.

I was disgusted with her behavior. I was disgusted with her.

But I took things to the next level. I called her an ugly name. Now, we were still in the car. The woman didn’t hear me and will never know I said it. But I know. And my wife knows.

And she called me a jerk.

Ok, so she didn’t say it exactly like that. But, later in the day, she let me know how upset she was at what I’d said. In fact, she’d been feeling like talking to me for a while about my negativity.

She called me out. She had every right to. I needed to hear it. As a Christian, I really do need to make more of an effort to love people who grind my gears. I’ve always made excuses and said things like, “That’s just how I talk when I’m driving. I’m not really like that.”

Aren’t I?

Is it okay to be hateful anywhere? Am I really capable of keeping that vitriol from oozing into other aspects of my life?

The truth is: that has happened. I’ve noticed that my anger rears its ugly head at times where it has no business being. It’s embarrassing. It really is.

So, I’m committing to work on it. I’m trying to learn how to hold on to what makes me – me, while letting go of the ugliness. I can be a jerk, but I don’t have to be.

I don’t enjoy Tim Hawkins or his comedy…but…it’s totally cool if you do.

Has God ever spoken to you through a spouse or loved one about something you need to change?

Tim says, “Thanks, Kevin! I think.”

Folks, you can connect with Kevin on Twitter @KevinRHaggerty, and his blog is The Isle of Man. Please join me in congratulating Kevin, and his wife Kim, on the impending arrival of their son. Please also be on prayer for Kevin as he recently learned that his teaching contract will not be renewed next school year. He is trusting God to provide through his writing. Let’s join with Kevin on this, ok?




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  • I don’t know who Tim Hawkins is, so it’s cool if you do or don’t like him. What blows my mind, though, are all the people who like Harry Potter. I mean, really??? 🙂

    • I love Harry Potter. Did I just blow your mind?

    • I know a man who reads George R.R. Martin, and enjoys it. But he won’t read J.K. Yet both are fantasy literature. I would contend that, thematically, the Potter stories are much more redemptive. Do you know this man, Larry? 😉

      • I can’t imagine there being a guy like that. Maybe, someday though, I will read them. It’s one of those things that I decided I wouldn’t do and I’ve painted myself in a corner. Kind of like watching E.T. or Jurassic Park. But, never say never. I actually watched Star Wars about 5 years ago.

        • It’s interesting, Larry, the way God sometimes takes those “nevers,” and completely trashes them for our good. 🙂

        • Larry, it’s interesting to me how God sometimes takes those “nevers,” and completely shatters then for our good. 🙂

          • I still say never to E.T. though. 🙂

          • Wait. You’ve never seen E.T.? How is that possible?

          • I didn’t go to the movies as a kid. Then it became a sort-of badge of honor to name all of these movies that other people had seen that I hadn’t. Never had a desire to go back and see it.

          • Interesting. I just figured you’d have accidentally seen E.T. at some point, on TV or something.

            I can’t say I totally don’t identify, though. I’ve made a staunch rejection of the movie Titanic since it came out years ago. I’ve never seen. Never will. Same with The Notebook. I just feel like if I did, something inside me would die, and it would probably be something I need. 🙂

          • My experience was the opposite--I went to the movies all the time as a kid. It was a nice escape.

            Still, I’ll bet both of you can name scores of movies that you’ve seen that I haven’t.

          • Yeah, I’ve tried my best to totally avoid it. I’ve seen scenes, but not the whole. Unforunately, I did see Titanic. The Notebook, though, is not too bad.

          • I’m not ashamed to say that, on the whole, I enjoyed The Notebook. E.T. I’ve not seen in almost 3 decades. Titanic was slickly produced, but entirely overlong.

  • I’ve been facing this issue myself. I recently realized how negative I am about folks, even in what I viewed for entertainment. Just last week I unsubscribed from the “people of walmart” RSS. I’m not sure why I find looking down on or making fun of others so appealing. Praying that God will help me see others thorough His eyes instead.

    • Oh buddy. Don’t ask me to give up POW. One step at a time. Baby steps. 🙂

  • This isn’t really the point of your post, but in one of our classes, we talked about our values and what we truly value and whether or not that lines up with what the Bible says we should value. Sadly, many of us admitted that entertainment was on our list of values. And while there’s nothing wrong with it, it’s sad to think that it even makes the same list as , say, true love, or seeking God.

  • Rob

    Is this the guy that does the Chick-fil-A song? That song made me chuckle but it didn’t draw me in to watch anything else he’s ever done.

    • That’s the guy. Search YouTube under his name for;

      Kids Rock
      Short Songs
      Old Rockstar Songs

      Kevin may disagree, but those are the ones I like.

  • As long as we’re confessing things, I’ve got one: the piece Kevin originally submitted was entirely different; in fact, you could say it was about 100% less confession, & about 100% more snark. As such, I was going to punk Kevin by, instead to linking to his blog, & Twitter, linking to his brother Stephen’s accounts.

    After he changed his mind, and submitted what you read above, I didn’t feel right about that.

    Thought you should know.

  • austingilly

    I recently realized my own tendency for negativity, and it really surprised me, to be honest, so it’s something I’m working on now too. Thanks for your honesty!

  • I like Tim Hawkins -- my personal favorite is the spoof on “Jesus take the Wheel” -- Cletus, take the reel” So HILARIOUS!! I appreciate honesty -- not everyone is always in the same place when it comes to humor. My grown up kids will play me things on youtube that they think is HILARIOUS and I don’t get it. I have played the youtube clip about these two crazy guys making a photo for their mother for mother’s day and DIED laughing -- but when I show it to my aging parents, they do not even crack a smile. So I get it.

    • My parents think Tim is funny too. Different strokes for different folks! 🙂

  • I used to be the Guy that had negative stuff to say about every idiot that did something stupid when I drive. When I find myself angry at another driver I say to myself, “They are people, just like me, trying to get somewhere.”

    I guess I need to checkout Tim Hawkins so I can form an opinion on him. Kevin, best wishes on your new son and I’ll pray for your job situation, maybe Tim Hawkins will give you a heckler job.

  • Kevin:

    This post marks the beginning of a period of important change in your life.

    It also marks the beginning of a period where your friends start buying you every piece of Tim Hawkins parephenalia imaginable.

    My prediction.

    • Comment win!

      You rock, JT!

      Everybody! You need to be reading JT’s blog,

      • Thanks Chad!

        I think everybody here should read your blog too!

        • Um, JT--was that a juke? Cause it felt like a juke.

          Cause, um, everybody here is already reading my blog.


          • More joke than juke. 😀

          • I know--I got it.

            You’re good peoples! 🙂

          • Thanks! You too.

            I try to be peoples whenever I can.

    • Ha. You may be right. I’d hate to see friends waste their hard earned money on something I was not going to keep though. 🙂

  • I dig the transparency… nice work.

  • Luke Fager

    I’m a smoker. I ditch my opportunities. I have some closet sins. I keep trying, thinking what will make the difference. Grace? Mercy? Working on it? I can appreciate the things we do as human on impulse. Writing this out must of have been hard, but I hope the encouragement was helpful Kevin.